In the hysteria following the murder of a New Orleans police chief, 11 ItalianAmericans were lynched by a vigilante mob angry about the citys influx of immigrants. Tears for Fears are an English pop rock band formed in Bath in 1981 by Roland Orzabal and Curt Smith. Founded after the dissolution of their first band, the mod. Hurricane Irma regained Category 5 status late Friday as the core of the storm made landfall in Cuba, the US National Hurricane Center said. To Build or Break a Childs Spirit. If you needed to lose weight, what would be most motivating You are getting chubby. Im not buying you any more clothes until you lose weight. Or Lets take a walk after dinner. List Of Gamefowl Breeds more. Ill let you make the salad. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are. If you needed to learn how to swim, what would be most motivating I dont want to hear your crying. Get in the water and swim Dont be a baby Or Ill be right by your side. You can do this. If not today, well try again tomorrow. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are. Care, concern, solicitude, anxiety, worry mean a troubled or engrossed state of mind or the thing that causes this. Tear For Fears Break It Down Again' title='Tear For Fears Break It Down Again' />THERES NO HIDING PLACE DOWN HERE INSTRUMENTAL BREAK Sister Mary she wears a golden chain Sister Mary she wears a golden chain Sister Mary wears the golden chain. The Break Them by Talking trope as used in popular culture. When one character gives a talk to another that does or is meant to somehow break down the. If you needed to lose weight, what would be most motivating Everyone makes mistakes. Thats how we learn. Its no big dealjust get a rag and clean it up. I. If you needed to practice better hygiene, what would be most motivating What is that awful smell Its a wonder you have any friends. Or Lets go to the store and pick out some deodorant. Your hair smells so good when you wash it. I think you should wash it every day. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are. If your table manners needed improvement, what would be most motivating You eat like a pig. I cannot stand to watch you eat. You are disgusting. Or I am trying to put down my fork after each bite, Id like you to join me. Thank you for chewing with your mouth closed. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are. If you are a bit clumsy and disorganized, what would motivate you to be more responsible Cant you do anything rightYou are either losing things or making a mess Or Everyone makes mistakes. Thats how we learn. Its no big dealjust get a rag and clean it up. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are. At times in my life I have been overweight, scared to swim, smelly, ill mannered, and disorganized. During those times, I could have used some encouragement. So when I saw the young boy ordered to get out of the pool because he was scared to swim, I cried with him from behind my sunglasses. I saw the disappointment in the mans eyes as he looked at his shivering son hugging his knees to his chest. The man really wanted his boy to learn to swim. He thought reprimanding him and ignoring the boys cries would motivate him to try harder next time. At times in my life, I thought this too About a little girl and her ukulele,About a little girl and her frequent messes,About a little girl and her perpetually slow self,About a little girl and her inability to ride a bike. Play the song again youre not trying hard enough. Another spill Are you serious How many times do I have to tell you to hurry up All the other kids have learned to ride their bike. Its high time you did too. With every sharply delivered word, with each disapproving glare, with every disappointed shake of the head, that girl got smaller. Less confident. Less capable. Less shiny. And one day she spoke the words of a defeated soul. I just want to be good, Mama, cried the little girl who once loved to strum her beloved instrument. And now she was placing the instrument at her feet, wondering if she should even be strumming at all. Over time, my constant critiques and exasperated breaths led her to believe she was no good. Over time, Id broken her beautiful spiritthe one that gave her a unique and radiant light. Motivating Not so much. There was a fine line between helpful adult guidance and using my authority to shame and belittle under the guise of good intentions. As I crossed that line again and again, my child experienced a harsh reality No matter what she did, it would never be good enough for me I could never be pleased. Motivating Not so much. The thought of my child growing up with a parent whose love was based on what she did rather than who she was caused an immediate change in me. I stopped being her rigid taskmaster and instead became her loving encourager Rather than harping on every single thing my child did wrong, I saved my guidance for serious issuesissues that could be potentially dangerous or life altering. Rather than forcing her to master a skill at the same rate as her peers, I assured myself that she would be ready in her own time. I stopped overreacting to kid mishaps and minor incidents and realized she was better at cleaning up after herself without someone breathing down her neck. If there was a bad habit that needed changing, I led by example. I invited her to join me in healthy habits. I provided tools like timers and check off lists to empower her to become more prompt and responsible without my assistance. I celebrated her efforts rather than the outcome and strived to speak three times as many positive words than negative ones. Under the wing of Loving Encourager for the past several years, Ive watched my child blossom. Her confidence and self assurance have grown. She takes risks and when she fails, its not the end of the world because she knows she can try again. She knows I will love her regardless of what she does or doesnt do. She confides in me when she does something wrong. She loves herself as is even though she does things a little differently than most. I wish Id abandoned the role of demanding taskmaster sooner, but I will not dwell on yesterday. Today matters more. My hope is that by sharing my own painful regrets and life changing discoveries, I can help someone else see what I see Shame abandons, encouragement believes. Condemnation paralyzes, compassion frees. Exasperation quits, patience prevails. Yelling silences, communication opens up. Blame hurts, grace heals. Faultfinding destroys, praise builds. Rejection loses, unconditional love wins. If you were a child trying to get through life the best way you know how, what would be most motivating I dont think youll ever measure up. Or. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are. Author note This post is not advocating the absence of guidance or instruction in our childrens lives. This message is meant to inspire thought about the way we do itand not just with our children, but also with our spouse, our friends, our relatives, and ourselves. Through ten years experience helping children overcome serious behavioral issues in a classroom setting, I have seen living proof that encouragement builds, heals, and transforms. In my personal life, the mantra LOVE ONLY TODAY has helped me overcome my own inner bully to love myself and my family as is. This mantra is now inscribed on a beautiful vintage bracelet available in several options for women, men, and youth. There are leather and non leather options available. If you are looking for guidance on how to create a positive home environment where your loved ones can thrive, please consider my books. HANDS FREE MAMA chronicles my journey from distraction, perfection, and stress to loving, peaceful connection and presence. HANDS FREE LIFE offers nine daily habits that will allow you to respond to yourself and your loved ones with more presence, more peace, and more grace. Recommended Resource In this brilliant article called From Criticism to Support, award winning author and parenting coach, Sandy Blackard, offers guidance to a member of our Hands Free community who feels as if she has broken her teenage sons spirit and wants to know how to help him reach his potential without the constant nagging and criticism. Click here to read. Thank you for sharing this journey to be the best versions of ourselves we can be, my friends of The Hands Free Revolution.